After a brief hiatus, I started reading the blog again and it has prompted me to send in a question for your review and dissection.
One of the reasons I had stopped reading a few months ago was because it was clear to me the difference of opinion that I have on the whole dating process than both you and many of the regular responders.
Early on (after 1 month) he asked me to be his girlfriend, saying “it only takes 1 good one, I’ve found her, I don’t want to date anymore.” I told him it was too soon. On the plus side, there was no wondering: he wanted a relationship and me as his GF.
I feel like i'm getting the short end of the stick but dont be to come off as selfish... ) Enjoy your freedom and space, you can do whatever the **** you want 5-6 days of the week, see your buddies at least once at the weekend for a full day / night AND you still get laid!
You end up dealing with everything from flight delays and traffic jams to getting ready in front of each other—and since there's no privacy when it comes to putting on foundation or curling your eyelashes in a hotel room, in a funny way, it builds intimacy.
Sharing a living space is also a preview of what's to come, and that kind of 24/7 togetherness makes it clear quickly if you're compatible or not.
So, as we come closer to the year mark, I suppose we will start getting closer to actually looking towards long term commitment.
We’re not too young (35 & 31) and I know that I do not want to wait as long as I did with my ex prior to moving to the next stage (whether that be living together/getting engaged etc.) She is currently looking to buy a house on her own.
Here’s a question from Cindy that starts out one way – asking about seeing other men while being “committed” to one – and though I normally would talk about Circular Dating here, and the “No Girlfriend Speech” – you’ll see how I take this in a completely new direction:“Rori, Is there a way to be sexually exclusive with one man while dating others until I’m in a committed relationship … He said he didn’t want me dating others, and I had no desire to, but if I had said THEN that I would – for a while – he would have respected that boundary.